![]() ![]() To find something else to give my life purpose. I thought I was 'too old' to find someone new in time to have kids. He started stalling, hoping to run my clock out. I'm going to give you the different answer. Sometimes I worry that when we're old we'll be alone and regret it then, but we have plenty of nieces and nephews, and the fear of the possibility of regret thirty or forty years from now isn't a valid reason to get pregnant IMO. Having a kid around for a couple hours? Fine. Also I've realized in the last few years that 1) my upbringing qualifies as abuse and I'm more like my abuser than I'm comfortable admitting 2) I don't want to treat a kid the way I got treated but I'm afraid it would be inevitable without a crap ton of ongoing therapy for the entire family and 3) I realized that I just don't really like kids that much. Plus I found out I have fertility issues and it would be very expensive and difficult, if not impossible, for me to get pregnant. We were concerned that he wouldn't be able to contribute to a child's life, either financially or by providing care. We don't know if he'll ever be able to work again or what his long term health will be like. I decided to not get pregnant and my husband has supported my decision.Īfter a few years my husband started having spotty employment due to health issues and ended up on disability. When we got married in our mid 20s we were trying to have kids, until we realized that we were pretty much just doing it because it was expected of us by family. ![]()
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